It’s not just another day

Grief is the process of expanding ourselves to make room for not only the pain, but all of the wisdom, joy and resilience that come with loss.

What we didn’t get matters too

Many of us learned to show up with "confidence" and "resilience" to our heartbreaks and disappointments. We deny and repress the pain of our story, and don’t even know there was any value in making room for the painful feelings. Until we choose the path of healing. Which inevitably calls us to know the path of grief.

Two interesting things about grief that you may not know, that can have a huge impact on our parenting and relationships

Can we rest in remembering our shared humanity and share this with our children?

Self-regulation skills can be incredibly helpful when we are feeling overwhelmed or triggered.

But I don’t believe we are meant to have to self-regulate as often as most of us do every day.

We are meant to have not only the physical and emotional help of a loving village, but the presence of their bodies to help regulate and sooth our nervous systems when we are stressed.

It is unrealistic (and unfair!) to think that we are supposed to reach some point of self-regulation mastery in order to do gentle parenting right.

it takes time, it takes learning, and it takes togetherness

the answer may surprise you

easy or hard, we are all lovable

changing our learned stories of guilt

heartbreakingly brilliant

We don’t always need to act perfectly in alignment with our values. Or perfectly calm, mature, or “healed”.

But they do need us to know who we really are.

This seems so simple, and yet, it can be so easy to forget

Our perfectly imperfect human children would not be adequately served by perfect parents.

And so, one of our biggest jobs in relationship with our children is to help them make sense of the flawed, complex and beautifully human parents they do have.