It never crossed my mind during the many times that I held my crying baby, in such a way that she might know with all of her being that I could hold whatever was hurting inside of her–that I was preparing myself to offer the same steadfast closeness and holding to my dad as tears rolled from his eyes in his last conscious hours.

What if the problem was just as much about the culture of healing that was lacking in our childhood homes, as it was about the actual wounding that we experienced there?

Enjoy the deep connection with our children that so many of our parents missed out on with us.

How we heal through holding and allowing ourselves to be held

Old traditions can make us forget that we have the choice to create. What new stories are you writing for your family?

It’s not about being perfectly healed for our children

How overwhelm can be a path to connection and belonging.

But what kind of hard, exactly?

If you find yourself worrying about the “right” time and way to wean your child, that makes sense. But do you know how to ensure that all of the feelings that come up for yourself and for your child during this transition, will be held in a way that strengthens their sense of self and trust in the relationship with you? In a way that prepares them to turn towards themselves with care, and opens their heart to receiving support from others when life gets hard in the future?

Replacing patterns of repression with patterns of healing

It’s not always so easy to do

Every part of you deserves care and healing

The more we know and remember our center, the less control our emotional states have over us. This is how we learn to parent ourselves from that wise and loving center. To bring healing and change to the parts of us that cry out to us through states of unease, tension, anxiety, deep sadness, anger, rage. And from this same solid center, to receive and really soak in the moments of ease, happiness, joy, contentment, and enthusiasm.

Do you practice the pause?

Grief is the process of expanding ourselves to make room for not only the pain, but all of the wisdom, joy and resilience that come with loss.